Reason is such an admiral trait - but throw it out the window when you're dealing with loved ones. Uncertainty, guilt, remorse rule the day when you are making decisions for the good of an elder whom you respect and owe everything. Tomorrow my brother and I move our mother into an Alzheimer's live in care facility. Even though we play the major parts here, this affects everyone in our family in such an enormous way. Circumstances lately may be why I feel like I've been trying to sip water from a fire hose. Impossible.