'Goodbye to the old too well-behaved me; you didn't think I'd cut my hair with a garden shears?' - That's independence growing and what can/should you do about it? A funny thing though: she, who wanted Gucci stuff not too long ago, tricked me into giving up my old sweatshirt she's now wearing. It's 20 years old; I have worn it every day for the last 3 years without a wash, what the heck! That's twisted independence in a high degree and it tickled me so much I just had to give it to her....