Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj's reply to a woman who visited him for advice.
Visitor: Intellectually I know that femininity is an illusion,
but the predicament is that I am separate . . .
Maharaj: Give up the identity that you are a woman;
attachment to male or female forms is itself an illusion.
Once you understand, then you are not caught up in the predicament,
you are liberated.