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Un-Christmas card ...
16-DEC-2010 Marisa

Un-Christmas card ...

Charles Lutwidge Dodgson, better known by the literary pseudonym Lewis Carroll, created – among others - a clever and surrealistically funny neologism “Un-birthday”, meaning an event which could be celebrated on any day which is not the person’s real birthday.
The principle is a genial and creative way to mock the apparently untouchable rituals of fixed celebrations and all what is connected with them.
This is not the suitable place, if ever there is one, to polemize with the traditional celebrations which engage every year a rather large part of the world in the period between the beginning of December and the beginning of January.
Probably the ideal solution is that everyone might managed to do what they really like, without feeling any conditioning social pressure either in one direction or in another.
Anyhow I could not help thinking of the un-birthday of Lewis Carroll today, when I received a delightful, whimsical and aesthetically very elegant “Un-Christmas Card” created for me on purpose by a friend who knows me well.
When we use the word “friend” we would always pay attention to what we say and to be cautious to not misuse it at random, there are few special words, which imply very deep and specific meanings. The risk is that they might lose all their peculiar values if they are misused.
A simple good acquaintance cannot be mistaken for a real friend.
We might have a lot of good acquaintance if we are sociable by nature, but in all cases we can have only few real friends.
Friendship needs time, attention, devotion, mutual complicity, thought-sharing, patience, consistency…
Nobody can build up such an articulate and - in a way- demanding relationship with many people at once, the most precious feelings have always certain uniqueness, which is their force.
Leaving some benevolent and kind regular comments to the photo of fellow photographers or clicking a button on Facebook don’t make of us friends, even though many people prefer to simplify the matter like that.
But this is another story…

This digression is to underline that this Un-Christmas card was sent to me by a real friend, who has all my gratitude for knowing me well and still liking me in spite of that.

“But what is the good of friendship if one cannot say exactly what one means?

Anybody can say charming things and try to please and to flatter,

but a true friend always says unpleasant things,

and does not mind giving pain.

Indeed, if he is a really true friend he prefers it, for he knows that then he is doing good.”

~Oscar Wilde ~

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Judi Hastings17-Dec-2010 06:28
An interesting read, and a neat card, and I like the "un" birthday and all. You are so right, good friends are a rare treasure. I have one very best friend in the world. We were kids together and to this day, we are 'best friends'. Been through alot together, good and bad. Happy and sad. Now we live on seperate sides of the united states, but when we get together, its like we just saw each other yesterday. :) Altho I have a biological sister that I love and who is great, my friend is a sister of the heart, one that is my age, one that has seen things and been thru things with me, and I with her, at the same time. We've just experienced life together and grown up together. How lucky I am! Thank you for reminding me of that, guess I'll give her a call tomorrow! :) Merry Christmas to you!
eye2see17-Dec-2010 06:08
Very thought provoking and descriptive words! Bravo ~V
Barry Moore17-Dec-2010 01:55
True friends are very hard to find - only time will tell if they are worthy of that title. Its great to share a happy un-birthday with 364/365ths of the world.
Johnny JAG16-Dec-2010 19:27
Happy un-Christmas