One tine when I wanted to replace a tomcat I had lost, I went to an animal shelter four times and didn't bring anyone home. The attendants were mystified. "These are all perfectly good kittens! Why don't you want any of them? "They don't have The Look," I said, by which I did NOT mean the wideeyed, wondering look that so many people think is the essence of kittenhood, On the fifth trip, I found what ( sought.
`This cat has The Look: calm, self-possessed, always considering what is happpening. And her housemates seem to respect that.